LOVE ISSUES: Winning someone’s heart

Enticing and winning someone’s heart is a torrid task that needs patience and cunning. Human beings are always complex and you have to blend your strategies for someone to yield willingly to your philosophies. You have to smile, you whisper, your wink and pat and spank a bit to trigger the emotions. You have to be a bit of naught but without taking it to the extremes The first phase is to make sure that the person you choose to be with suites all your desire and is genuine. Is he/she really very important to you and can you spend a day or two hours without thinking about the person? How badly do you want his/her loyalty and trust? What are your wishes and how do you feel if you are with the person. Do you feel elated, jolly or you can feel the burden and uncomfortable. It is very important that your desire to be with that someone stems from respect, admiration, and love for that person. That is the only way the person will feel genuine care. For example, does the person advance your knowledge, does the person make you feel good and laugh. What atmosphere do you sense in the present of the person? Is the person an introvert, extrovert what about the selection of words in a conversation? Is the person charming and challenges your mental faculty a bit? If the response is a big YES then that is the person to be with all the time. Again it is important to sense whether the person is stingy or can share the resources with you. Because your gifts have no strings attached to them, you won’t hold a grudge. In the long run, this will show through in your actions so that you would not feel manipulative to the other person. In the “getting attention” example above, you might become pushier and pushier as you don’t get what you want. The other person would start to feel this neediness and wonder what you want from them so badly. Whereas respecting that person would be more along the lines of “Here’s something to help you, don’t trouble yourself to respond”. If you do not actually respect or admire a person, then why would you even want to be near him/her? The only conclusion is that you want something, which means your motivation isn’t genuine care, but something else. This’ll make you go away fairly quickly if the person doesn’t give you what you want as you have no other reason to be around him/her. However, if you actually respect and admire the person, then you would be glad to be around, Therefore, it is important to express your care in ways that the other person understands and appreciates. You need to offer him/her something of value, as perceived by that person, not by you! Any gift no matter how expensive it is, if it is not given to your partner in good spirit it is worthless. You want to make it easy for the other person to be with you. If you are deeply concerned with your other, you seize to be conservative and you give and take what is on offer. In love there is reciprocity what they call “Give and Take’. In a way you both recharge your batteries and leave the vicinity with high voltage of it. You should avoid thinking negatively about the other person, all you do should be for the positive and goodies of both ends. The idea here is to offer the other person something of value, without encroaching on his/her freedoms or time. From time to time, you are saying, “here’s something I thought you might want, feel free have it or not have it”. It should be spontaneously, and you do not attach value that the other person should return to you. If you keep offering things that the other person wants but ask for nothing in return, why wouldn’t they want to be with you? But this should be done by both ends. If that person continually rejects your offers, then take a hint that this is not something he/she wants. A big part of your will is to keep trying to find something despite these failures, because you feel that gaining this person’s trust and loyalty is worth the effort. Be very careful that you are not trying the same thing over and over again, especially if it bothers or angers the other person. Remember that you are trying to continuously offer something the other person wants and to be open and honest with them, not trying to force that person to like what you’re giving! Some people take time to open up and to develop a liking. So move at their pace and do not expedite the process. Also, make sure that you actually do like doing the giving! If you truly feel the other person is worth the effort, then the giving should feel satisfying and sincere. In summary the more you give the higher the chances of winning. Kikikiki1 but this should not be used as a weapon to force someone to relinquish the pride against you. By the way pride should not find place or its way in trying to lure someone heart. Words are very important, and have to be accompanied by action. Be clever enough to sense what should come before the other and how it should be shooed. Otherwise, you’re just entering into a very one sided relationship that is not in your favour! Just remember, give because you want to, not because you want something in return! Sometimes love can be ready in somebody’s eyes, face and body’s posture. Non verbal communication is very important when displaying your endearment feeling towards the other person. Always wear a smile though you are not appealing in the face, but a smile will kill and bury all the tension and cultivate passion and love PLEASE READ AND PASS COMMENTS! YOU CAN EMAIL ME ON masuku.caven@gmail.com or call me in 0773210607